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If you have ever been in a relationship with a woman whom you consider as "the one," you definitely know how it feels. It's a feeling like no other. Almost nothing seems as important to you as being with her. And if you could, you would spend every free moment together with her. You would even miss hanging out with your friends just to be with her. Hey, they are your friends, they would understand if you choose her over them most of the time.
And who doesn't, isn't a true friend anyway! Should you ever start choosing your girlfriend over your friends every time, you will severely damage your friendships with others and eventually ruin the relationship you have with your girlfriend. This kind of behavior is the exact opposite of a healthy relationship. But let me explain. Whenever you sacrifice activities you had planned with your buddies because of your girlfriend, your relationship with them suffers. Do that enough times and they will decide to stop hanging out with you. Even your best friendships will eventually fall apart if you continue on this path.
Sure, most of your friends will understand when you don't always have time for them. However, if you start to shut them out of your life completely, you Friend s or gf lose them fast, even the best ones. You wouldn't believe how many guys I have seen in this exact situation.
Imagine you are the guy in this position, someone who spends all of his time with his girlfriend, and with passing time, she slowly but surely becomes the only friend you got. Your buddies stop calling you because "Why bother? You would say no anyway. He basically sacrifices everything he has for her and she doesn't even want it.
Because all of your interactions happen with only this one "friend," you will become dependent on her company. You will always need to have her around to feel good, and when she isn't, frustration and desperation sets in. With this kind of behavior, you will also start to suffocate her by continually demanding for attention and affection. Whenever she is out with her friends because she didn't give them up like you did you will become jealous.
You will start to see every new male acquaintance she makes as a threat and might even start to resent her female friends because she suddenly wants to hang out with them more than she used to. Like you can imagine, this is where everything starts to go downhill.
Sure, the one thing you could always do is to get to know her friends. But whatever Friend s or gf do, these people can't replace your old friends. They would be your acquaintances and not someone you could just call up to hang out with. And what's even more worrying, should you ever break up with your girlfriend, these new "friends" would disappear along with her because they would always choose her over you. And when the day finally comes and you two break up and it will comeyou will have no friends at all. Now you are in a terrible spot — you are all alone.
Whenever you try to patch things up with your old buddies, you will notice that they don't have that much time for you anymore. If you put yourself in their shoes, it will Friend s or gf apparent why. You were the guy who was always "busy" and didn't have time for them, and now when you are all alone and desperate, you suddenly expect them to drop everything and find time for you again.
But guess what? They moved on with their lives. They have learned to live their lives without you in it, and all you can do is to accept it and start looking for new friends. So what exactly am I trying to say here? That you should always choose your friends over the girl? Of course not! If you spend time only with your friends and rarely with your girlfriend, you will definitely lose her. A woman needs your attention, and when she doesn't get it from you, she will get it from someone else. The solution here is to find a healthy balance between the two, so your relationships with your friends and with your girl won't suffer.
Don't spend all of your time with your friends, but also don't give her all of your attention either. Find the time to go out with your buddies and the time to do something with your girl, so everybody is happy. Remember, balance is the key to all long and healthy relationships. Also, you have to understand that your girlfriend doesn't actually want you to sacrifice everything for her. Even if she asks for your attention, it doesn't mean you should drop everything and give it to her. Sometimes she just wants to know that you are a man with strong convictions and can stick to your decisions.
She might even get upset in the moment, but in the long run, she will respect you for standing your ground. The real key to a happy and lasting relationship is to keep your partner happy, that's why you have to grow alongside your relationship.
If you are unsure how to do that, then here is something that will set you on the right track. So I just found this thread and I could use some advice. Does anyone have any advice? My friends have me an ultimatum; said it's them or my girlfriend. My friends told me I needed to break up with her if I really valued the friendship. They said compromise wasn't realistic, and that choosing them meant losing her. They claimed that she wedged me from my friend group, that she was changing me.
However, the only things changing about me were my priorities; I hung out with her more than I hung out with them. Over the Friend s or gf of my relationship with her 8 months now my friends have become more and more openly disrespectful towards her and I couldn't take it. My best friend became my girlfriend last year, she used to hang out with my group of friends every often.
Ever since we got together she expect quality time without our group of friends. The treatment from our group of friends towards her changed too, she can't be comfortable hanging out with the group anymore and expect us to leave them completely as she felt hurtful. We both will lose our friends in this situation, however she doesn't treat them as friends anymore. I have an update the guy that put his girlfriend first all the time like he didn't just do it sometimes but all the time and I'm not friends with him anymore I don't talk to him anymore at all actually and I understand he might be hurt but in the long run I think it's what's best for me I couldn't be friends with someone who would actually put their ificant other first all the time at all I simply don't have time for that kind of friend this is just part of who I am I don't owe a man friendship if it isn't worth anything.
So me and my girlfriend have a lot of fights the last few months and 2 of my good friends said I needed to break up with her because it wasn't healthy. So we broke up only a couple of days later we came back together because I still loved her and i realised not all was bad. Should i go for my girlfriend or my friends.
Judging by the limited information you gave, go with your friends. If you're not sure whether or not you want to stay with her, already broke up with her once, your friends tell you that the relationship isn't healthy, and you're fighting with her all the time, then it all points to a relationship that won't last long.
Hi i needed an advice from who r the ones which can really help. I m in a long distance relationship since two years we r together and one once in year we meet for approx 2 or 3 weaks last time when he came the last day when he stayed for at the same time I had a school last afterparty and at that day it was his last day we went for together for that party nd for a while I went dancing with my friends he felt ignored and he keeps intimating me again and again that between him and friends I choose friends and went dancing.
I am in a long distance relationship. Me and my bf meet after 2 months or so just for 2 hoursthe only way to get connected through him is cell phones. He is having many friends sort of extrovert personality he is, and the thing is I don't get enough time with him like how our relationship used to be and how it is now, there is a huge difference just because of this communication gap, the left over time he likes to spend with his family and cousins I told him that am having issues with these things, I even cried like a baby N of times but ever time he apologize and promises not to repeat in future.
I know he loves me a lot and so do I and I don't want to loose him at any cost what should I do please help me through this.
Sorry, but I don't see this going anywhere. Long distance relationships are hard enough, but when the person you're dating only spends a minimal amount of time with you after being apart for so long, it starts to raise some questions.
And even after you bring up the issue and he still does it, it just doesn't seem like he cares that much. I confronted him about it before and he said he was sorry, and it changed for a while. But things reverted back to how they were before. His group of friends definitely get more time with him than I do. Any advice? As I see it, you've got 2 options: 1 You talk to him again. If you go with the first option what you should dostay levelheaded. Don't make demands or ask him to spend all of his time with you, try to find a solution that works for the both of you. And if nothing works Hey John, so I have been dating this girl for almost 2 years now.
We are in long Friend s or gf. We were together first for few months then I moved to a new country nearby. Anyway, so I have had this best friend female for over 13 years now. We are very open with each other when it comes to conversation.
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