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Before you can post Senior wife looking for sex reply in these forums, please our online community. the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak. Hey guys. I am hoping I am not the only guy in this boat We are still relatively young I am 30 and she is 29 and we have been married 4 years, been together about ten. We used to have a pretty active sex life but it has gone dormant since we had kids about 3 years ago. She always says she is tired and makes excuses like she can't be bothered or other trivial things.

And she never comes on to me. I always have to initiate it and I feel rejected and horrible when she knocks me back. Being depressed and having low self esteem probably makes it seem worse, but I take it pretty badly being knocked back and going without sex for months. I feel maybe she isn't attracted to me or in love with me anymore but she denies this. I don't know what to think anymore. Any thoughts anyone? Your situation is difficult and it may be hard to get responses for fear of criticism.

Lucky for me, I am addressing you, not every person with an opinion that can read this, so here goes. Such a situation happens to both men and women and can have many causes. It could be a form or depression. Women can be very critical of their bodies and can feel ugly after childbirth. Remember, we are talking about their perceptions, not their reality, and your interest in her may just feel like you are being patronising. Alternately, although unlikely by the sound of it she may really have lost interest in you or being seeing someone else. The possibilities are numerous and I do not have the information to make even an informed guess!

You just do not know and she may not even know why she feels this way. The difficulty, I think, is that in relationships we tend to meet a of needs of our partner. Some emotional, some physical, some financial et cetera. When that situation changes, two things happen.

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One is that it creates confusion for the other partner. The other is that the needs still exist. Can I suggest you tell you wife that the situation is causing emotional and physical difficulties for you and clearly you did not up to have no physical relationship for the rest of your life?

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Then ask her if the two of you can see a counsellor together to try and draw out the underlying issue, which obviously isn't the physical act but the emotion behind it? Thought I would just offer this one thought in response to your post.

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There is an old saying and I am not sure where I first heard it but it goes something like "men need to have sex to feel loved and women need to feel loved to have sex". I know these days it may seem like an old fashioned gender stereotype but it might help to think about ways to show her love rather than asking for sex. I have written many paragraphs only to delete them all, so I'm proceeding slowly, but I too have heard what Pixie says "men need to have sex to feel loved and women need to feel loved to have sex", however I can really relate to what Steven has said.

Hi Steven, as ly mentioned it's obviously a delicate, complex subject. Complex as it involves you, your wife and the way you interact Trying to provide accurate advice is very tricky. I'm 40, male and have been married for 6 years. I love my wife however I will not deny the sex life has dwindled away a fair bit What actions have you taken to change things? Aside from your own vulnerabilities feeling depressed, how does your depression affect your relationship? Would she like more sex in the relationship? Maybe it's something else within your relationship she seeks that will follow through with a better sex life?

Roll your sleeves up, sit down with her, get open and start communicating. Learn more about what she needs, learn more about what you need and what you guys as a team need. Let her know that you need her, express that vulnerability. All that said, I mean to pose those questions in the gentlest way and I have no idea just how much you communicate so forgive any pre judged sounding comments!

I think you would have a huge percentage of the population out there relating in some way or another to your issue. You're not alone!! Hello again everyone. Thanks to all of you that have replied and made useful comments, suggestions and some good advice. I trust her with my life and she has no male friends or even contact with any men that I know of anyway.

She also doesn't seem that interested in other men! I think the comments about her not liking her own body are on the mark. She has pretty low self esteem and thinks she is fat when she isn't. She never says anything positive about her body so I am thinking that must be contributing heavily to her loss of interest in sex.

And more so especially after childbirth. She is pretty fragile at the moment and Senior wife looking for sex am not pushing her.

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I don't want to feel selfish and I hope you that are reading are not getting a picture of someone that is only interested in sex. That isn't what I am saying. I just feel like we have drifted apart and the lack of physical contact doesn't help it looks like I am a man that needs sex to feel loved I had never heard that saying before but I guess it makes sense. I guess all of our well meaning theories are neither here nor there, really. The common thread is, as mentioned a few times, is communication. It is the one thing that will make or break any relationship.

I understand that she is vulnerable but please don't let her shut you down when it comes to communication as in the meanwhile your relationship will deteriorate further. Maybe set yourself little goals or a timetable?

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Tell yourself you wish to at least discuss it with her within the next month and if the opportunity hasn't arisen or she has rejected your attempts at communication, you may need to be a little more insistent that you guys talk. I don't feel you are just interested in sex. There has been a massive shift in a relationship dynamic between you two and it will change things. Imagine if you left your job and stopped providing financially without giving a reason why or showing interest in getting income elsewhere.

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I'm not saying sex is the same as working, I am saying that a major and unexplained change has occurred in your relationship and you are allowed to ask why. You need to realise that if she is suffering depression or anxiety she will be reluctant to face it. No different to any other mental health issue. I think you should ask yourself where you expect to be in your relationship in, say, six months if some lines Senior wife looking for sex communication haven't been opened by then? Hi again everyone. I had a talk with my wife about how I have been feeling and tried to express myself as best as I could but it didn't come out the way I wanted it to and she just fobbed it off again.

She said sex isn't on her "list of priorities" at the moment. She minimised the fact that we have virtually no sex life, saying it has been due to the pregnancy and the birth, although it has been going on a lot longer than that. She said we will have sex again, when she is ready. I have no idea when that will be and by the sounds of it neither does she. I told her that I am not going to initiate anything because I don't like being rejected and I am going to wait for her. I think I might be waiting a long time.

Hi Steven, another thought springs to mind re: your situation. You've had 3 .

Senior wife looking for sex

Did she have easy pregnancies each time. What about the births? Is it possible, she's 'sore' there. Sometimes lack of Eostrogen can 'dry' a woman, making sex painful.

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