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Of course divorce can be destabilizing, even if the split was Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin-levels of amicable, and reasons for the split were seemingly benign. And if you're watching a loved one cycle through the typical emotions associated with this trying chapter—grief, fear, anger, and frustration—not to mention lengthy legal proceedingsit's easy to feel helpless or concerned that you'll say the wrong thing.
The words, "Don't worry, you're better off without them," don't always cut it—or even come close to soothing a very complicated situation. And, while gifting them a book on divorce that could say it better than you can yourself, is a place to start, it may not speak to what they're going through, specifically. Also, urging them to " get back out there " right away might not be the best tact, either.
What matters most, however, is that you try, according to experts, who share their tips here on how to support friends and family who are going through a divorce. Not only that, your loved one may be lonely. Even if they can't quite muster the energy to socialize, continue to include them in plans so they stay connected, or at the very least, feel wanted. Another crummy downside of divorce: relocating. The simple act of putting old sweaters in a box can represent the deeper losses and pain commonly experienced by those going through divorce, he adds. You being there to help them sort through their things and do some pre-move Marie Kondo-ingcan provide much-needed distraction and comfort.
That's how we off-load grief. But try to resist the urge to in. If you do end up adding your err, two cents, your Separated looking for a friend might not feel comfortable sharing with you if their sentiments change to something more positive. Basically, try to help with the things that their ex theoretically would have done in the past.
Cooking dinner can be a chore under the best of circumstances, but doing it after a divorce is often a painful reminder that there will be one less person at the table. So, prep something for your loved one and drop it off at their place. Hear us out. While folding their socks might be beyond your BFF-depths, helping your divorced friend means giving them as much routine and support as possible, Durvasula says.
Checking in to see if your friend wants to talk is helpful, Cilona says. Everyone copes with grief differently, and your friend just may not be ready to open up yet. Or, they may prefer a distraction. So if they're not particularly chatty, send them an Oprah memeor an uplifting video. So, ask. That can even mean asking if they felt that the meal you brought over was helpful. Yet over time, they end up feeling alone.
But you can show up and keep showing up—and that can make all the difference to someone going through a divorce. Your Best Life. Type keyword s to search. Getty Images. Keep inviting them out, even if they often decline.
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